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By Brad Nakase, Attorney
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Our professional and personal lives are impacted by miscommunications. They are the outcome of our own observations, leading us to create assumptions. A lot of the confusion we carry around, honestly, most of it, comes from bad communication. Things get twisted somewhere between what we meant and what actually landed. That little gap, that’s where misunderstandings grow.
The only real way to shrink that gap is with plain, honest, & slightly uncomfortable conversation. This article discusses how impact over intent plays out. How to strategically connect the two, and how to handle disputes between the two.
Intent meaning: Intent, if you strip it down to its bones, is just what we meant to do. The inner push behind our words and actions.
Impact definition: Impact refers to what we accomplish. The outcomes of our acts or words, as well as how they are interpreted. The distinction between them is that our intentions may not align with what really occurs.
According to Don Miguel Ruiz, two out of four agreements, a concept of ancient Toltec wisdom, best illustrate the distinction between intent and impact. Never presume, which implies that we are unable to understand the intentions or views of others. And that’s exactly where impact over intent becomes tricky. Since it’s not personal, our influence isn’t about us. Impact isn’t about who we are. It’s about how others take us in. Their own filters shape it: backgrounds, experiences, biases, assumptions. All that stuff we never see but always bump into. There isn’t a universal formula.
Someone from a different country, gender, age group, or even just a different work history—each one hears us differently. The way our words land on them says more about their world than ours. And that’s important to remember. When our good intentions go wrong, we may feel assaulted or condemned.
Let’s examine several instances to gain a better understanding of the distinction between harmful impact and positive intention. This is where people often argue impact over intent.
One may be tempted to prioritize impact over intent in a quarrel. We have a tendency to think in terms of good and wrong. We prioritize perception above aim if we concentrate on impact. Additionally, we anticipate that everyone is aware of the consequences of their conduct. However, we absolve others of responsibility for adverse effects by presuming good intent. By doing this, emotions are minimized, responses are policed, and minorities may be marginalized. Blamelessness & accountability are two different things. It is possible to take responsibility for unintentional responses without being held accountable or punished.
More caution or better planning could have prevented the impact in several of the aforementioned situations. We rarely know how we’re going to affect someone. When something goes wrong, our first instinct is to get defensive. “I did not mean it in that sense.” The truth? Good intentions cannot magically fix a bad impact. And defensiveness usually makes everything worse.
The way we react can either close or expand the disparity between our best intentions and negative effects. The fact that we have no influence over someone’s feelings does not diminish their significance. Words like these cannot be used to minimize sensations in order to correct an undesired outcome:
Practicing impact over intent takes honest effort. How we proceed is essential for closing the gap when our influence deviates from our aims. We can take advantage of the chance to listen, learn, demonstrate empathy, & improve. With frank and open communication, we can settle a dispute brought on by our behavior. We can start closing the deficit by:
We aren’t even aware when our words drift into microaggression territory. It’s unintentional. Unintentional doesn’t mean “not real.” The other person still feels it. And that’s why understanding their perspective matters. It’s how we slowly close that intent–impact gap.
We can match our goal with our impact, in addition to trying to comprehend how others see us. According to some experts, we may align our bodies with our intentions by communicating them to ourselves.
There’s an interesting angle that researchers like William A. Tiller from Stanford talk about. How human intention can shape physical reality. Lynne McTaggart points to studies from Stanford, MIT, & Princeton. They all suggest that intent isn’t just a private feeling. It shows up everywhere in our lives, influencing more than we realize.
Efficient intent communication can influence the workplace, just as conveying intent to oneself has a significant impact on how we feel and our lives. Business executives’ teams are able to support and execute their intentions when they are well communicated. We must first comprehend how our actions impact one another so as to achieve the intended outcome. We must act on our goals and communicate them properly in order to completely accomplish our intent.
This influences consumer satisfaction, workplace culture, and brand perception. Additionally, leaders show their intentions to workers through the way they handle disputes at work. Do they try to comprehend, sympathize, and avoid confrontation, limit impact, or penalize positive intentions that have harmful effects? Coaching can be helpful if your organization, leadership, or employees need assistance aligning intent to effect.
At the end of the day, most of our conflicts aren’t about huge mistakes. They come from tiny misunderstandings that quietly snowball because nobody slows down to clarify what they actually meant. Intent lives inside us, but impact lives in the other person’s world, and those two worlds rarely line up on their own.
So the real work is in closing that space—talking honestly, listening without trying to “win,” and being willing to adjust when something goes wrong. Not perfection, just effort. When we do that, teams work better, relationships breathe easier, and communication stops feeling like walking through a minefield.
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